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Old 08-08-2015, 11:45 PM   #1 (permalink)
 
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When it's time to say that final Good bye..

My senior is going to be 15 next month. I have had him since his birth. He has some sort of nerve problem, either genetic or due to a possible injury. It started about 5 years ago with an occasional dragging of the left rear. Then I noticed he was loosing muscle mass in the thighs. It has progressed to where he occasional will poo in his sleep. He has a difficult time getting up and he sometimes falls down.

He is starting to get some arthritis, as all old dogs do. Last visit to the vet, (he weighed 106) the vet said he has a heart problem, most likely enlarged heart.

His mind is sharp and he still loves to eat and go for walks. Some days are better then others. The other day, he couldn't even control his left leg. Sometimes he knuckles so much he makes his toenails bleed. I had a pair of socks on him, to protect his toes.

I keep asking myself, is it time? I ask myself, would I want to die if I was having a hard time getting up, no I wouldn't. Not as long as there was somebody willing to help me. He turns to me for help, and I am there as I have been his entire life.

I find myself becoming frustrated. I don't want to put him down because I have become tired, or because I can not afford vet care. I mean, hey, he is almost 15. How much sense would that be to put a bunch of money out to try to prevent something that is going to happen anyway.

I feel like, I want to be in control of when he goes. I sometimes hope that he will just die in his sleep, so I don't have to make the choice. I want to be there and help him pass in peace. I don't want to have some medical emergency happen where he is in pain and has to go to the vet and have those be his last moments. I feel I need to do it, before that happens.

I am going to miss him, he has been my buddy for a long time.

What factors helped you to choose when it was time? Do you feel you waited to long to make the choice? Did you stay until the end? (A girlfriend of mine did and she said she can't get it out of her mind and I should not stay)

Thank you for listening.

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Old 08-09-2015, 12:45 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Anything over 12 years old, everyday is a blessing, think of him, if your being selfish,
You'll feel bad later, this is a proud breed, let him live and die with dignity.......
I feel for you...
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Old 08-09-2015, 12:58 AM   #3 (permalink)
 
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My family dog growing up was 18 when we finally put him down. In retrospect, we were selfish and waited too long. He was mostly blind and deaf, but we waited until his organs started going before making the call. If I could do it over again, I would have done it before his organs started to shut down. Being blind & deaf was enough and should have been the end. He would have been happier slipping away peacefully while he was still doing okay rather than spending his final year or so like that.

To me, it's about quality of life. As long as he's still enjoying life and not in pain, there's no reason to end it. You know your dog best and you should know when it's time. Ultimately, that's your decision to make.
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Old 08-09-2015, 01:59 AM   #4 (permalink)
 
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Tough situation SoCalPitGal. Most of us have been there before and a few of us old timers have been there multiple times. It never gets easier and I have always questioned myself after doing it but in time you'll know it was the right thing to do.
As tough as it is, I always stay till the end, holding their head and looking them in the eye. I want to assure them, I am there. When I put down my last girl of 15 I paid the bill and did the paperwork in advance so when it was over I said my goodbye and walked right out of the place.

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Old 08-09-2015, 03:51 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Stay til the end. Your dog deserves that from you. Yes, it maybe the hardest thing you have ever had to do but I feel it needs to be done. Your dog was always there for you when you needed it be there for him when he needs it.

My childhood pup was 17 and I was in college when she had to go. Coming home on breaks i was able to see my dogs condition more so than my folks who were living with her. Most vets will also come to your home to assist you so the dog is where they are comfortable and it's easier for all of you.

Going to be horrible and in sorry you have to think about it now. We are all there at some point and all hope to do right by our dogs.
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You have my sympathies, SoCalPitGal, it's not an easy decision and never gets any easier. I will say, be with your boy at the end, he wouldn't leave you and as hard as it is when they close their eyes for the last time, I think you would spend the rest of your life kicking yourself if you let him die among strangers, no matter how kind they were.

Edited to add: He's a beautiful boy!

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Old 08-09-2015, 08:35 PM   #7 (permalink)
 
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Thank you for all the supportive responses. I want to have the procedure done at home, as he does not like the vet and I don't want his last moments to be at the vet's office. One question I forgot to ask, I was wondering about my other dog, I don't want to have her there during the actual procedure, but should I let her come and smell and him after he as passed? Do you think this will help her know what has happened?
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I'm sorry your going through this. I had a similar situation with my 13 year old Rottweiler. My dog had a tumor in his head. He stopped walking from one day to an other. He also lost all his muscle and would have seizures. He lasted about a week before I decided to put him to sleep. I tried my best to keep him alive I stayed next to him until his last breath. I was hugging him when they put him down. Some times I wish I wasn't there but then I remember how I was there for my best friend until he passed. You will know when it's time and even though it's hard in the beginning just know it's gonna be alright. Best of luck to you
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I just experienced this 2 Mondays ago with my cat of 18 years. They tend to tell you when it's time. Making the decision to put him down will be something that will haunt you forever. You will second guess yourself every single day. But in the end, it will have been the best thing for him. Because you are his world it is up to you to do what is best for him. No matter how hard is will be.
I'm sorry that you will have to experience this.
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