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Old 01-09-2021, 02:57 PM   #1 (permalink)
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At my wits end. Please help!

I'm so emotional right now it's tough to focus. For the past year, life with Otis was mostly alright. He's a good boy and wants to learn, but some things he just doesn't seem to get.

I have been teaching myself to have more patience and tolerance with him when things go wrong. Accidents will happen and I feel that I have made some significant progress in this area. However, when the same thing goes wrong OVER & OVER & OVER & OVER again, I find it very difficult to maintain a calm and rational demeanor.

I'm talking about him crapping in the house. AND not just crapping in the house, crapping on my carpet of all places. It has gotten to the point where it doesn't matter if I'm home or not or whether the back door is open for him to go outside. He seems hellbent on crapping on my carpet.

I get so angry with him when he does this. I don't get physical with him, but I sure do yell at him A LOT. I hate it and I hate myself for getting this way.

I don't know what to do anymore and I need help. I can't go on this way. I try to tell myself that it's only crap and it can be cleaned up. But that isn't the point. It's the chronic habit of him doing it repeatedly that really gets me mad.

I'm seriously considering finding him a new place to live and it completely breaks my heart to say it. I just don't know what to do. Of course I want to keep him, but I cannot and will not continue this way. It has broken me and I have shed far too many tears over this.

Please someone help. Thank you.
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Old 01-09-2021, 04:10 PM   #2 (permalink)
 
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Has your vet cleared him of any medical issues? Have you had him since he was small and shown him praise when he pottys outside? Do you kennel him? Does he eat on a schedule?
I adopted my boy at 2yr old when his owners dumped him. No one taught him any house manners. A kennel literally solved his potty habits overnight. He didn't want to potty in his kennel and was taken from his kennel to the yard the moment we got home or up for the day. Lots of praise when it happens wherr you want.
Once you rule out medical issues, treat him like a little baby in regards to retraining the basics.

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Old 01-09-2021, 06:01 PM   #3 (permalink)
 
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Put him on a very strict meal and bathroom schedule and restrict his movements in the house by closing him in whatever room you are in. He wakes, he pees, he eats, he goes outside until he poops. If he refuses to poop, then you work him, fetch, tug, walk, etc. until he does. Big praise, poopy party!!! Then inside. Praise every outdoor elimination, but make a party out of the poo.
I personally do not allow my dog to free roam the house. He's required to be in the part of the house that I am. So I can see when he needs to go. (he walks around in circles looking at me when he has to go.)
Learn the signs of poo. Some dogs stare at you, some walk in circles, some bark in your face. Some just stiffen their back legs. Once you have a schedule and learn the sign, "accidents" will be all but a distant memory.
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Old 01-10-2021, 07:32 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Thank you all for the replies and suggestions. I had taken the entire day yesterday to contemplate what to do next. It wasn't an easy decision at all, but I have decided to rehome him.

Over the past year, it has been a culmination of several different things that has led to this decision. Among other unwanted incidents and numerous items destroyed, I have suffered quite a bit of physical injury as well. I have had countless scars on my arms, chest, and legs, suffered nose bleeds and bruises from attempting to play with him. Most recently, I now have significant pain and damage in my left hand and struggle to pinch or push anything with my fingers.

I cannot play wrestle with him. He goes from 0 to 1000 in an instant and starts biting aggressively. I know I'm not feeling tense or uneasy when I try to do this and am mindful to be as gentle and as playful as possible. But he just doesn't get it and goes immediately for my hands.

Bottom line is; he is too high energy for me and I don't have the time or capacity to satisfy his needs. I live alone so I have to do everything around my house myself. So couple that with working from 8-7 every day, where's the time for him or myself?

Otis was dropped on me without warning right after I put Ogie down and was getting ready to put Lina down. The person who gave him to me was in a tough situation and really needed to find him a home. I wasn't fully ready for a new dog yet, but I felt I owed it to him and myself to give it a try. So I agreed.

From day 1 it was chaos. He wasn't neutered at the time so he was all over Lina who was just trying to live out her final weeks as peacefully and as pain free as possible. She was trying to fight him off while I constantly had to separate them. Then Ogie's ashes came in the mail that same night so it was a total mess.

Moving on, our relationship was improving, but I always had that feeling of uneasiness around him. I felt since he was a puppy, I needed to be always paying attention to him and trying to play. After a few months, it started to take its toll on me. My shoulders and neck were getting completely sore from playing with him (not always a bad thing as I could always use the exercise), but to the point of painful movement. That and getting all scarred up from his aggressive play demeanor was bad too.

So today, it's the same but different. I can tell he's just not happy here and that makes me not happy. He needs to be running and engaging in activities for hours a day every day. And while I do take him to doggy daycare 3 days a week which helps with his energy release, I feel he needs to serve a purpose somewhere. He might be a good K9 dog, or maybe with a pack hunting wild boar. I don't know...just spitballing here. But I believe we both will be better off with him going to the right home. I don't want to just pass him off to someone else who isn't prepared to handle him properly...that's no good for anyone. He needs to go to the right home with the right people. Wherever that is...not sure yet.

Anyways, that's the whole scoop. I know a lot of this is on me and I take full responsibility for what has happened so far. But I need a lower energy, chill type of dog who likes to do whatever, whenever. I definitely want to continue walking twice a day, but if we want to chill on the couch all day because it's raining (like today), he or she would be cool with that too. A dog that gets along with everyone and other animals and loves loafing on the couch. I'm sure the shelter has someone there for me and as soon as I can get Otis set up, I'll find him or her.

Thank you again all for the help! Sorry for the long rant, but I felt it necessary to describe a more complete picture of our relationship. I will always love him and will miss him dearly when he goes, but I know this is what is best and right for him.
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I'm sorry it didn't work out Bradd but I know that it was not for lack of effort on your part. What I know is the care and dedication that you have put into all your dogs. It sounds like you are doing the right thing for you and Otis. I sincerely wish the best for you and hope things work out all around.
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Old 01-12-2021, 11:06 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Thanks Joe. It was not an easy decision at all as I do love him, but I know it's the best for both of us. I have reached out to a local pit rescue hoping they can help. If anyone knows of any other organizations who would be willing to assist, I'm willing to contact them.

Thank you again. Once Otis is in the right place, I will adopt another dog (maybe 2) who will fit my lifestyle much better. A house isn't a house without at least 1 dog.

Thanks again!
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Best of luck in the future and please stay in touch and let us know how things are going.
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